refined
adj
1 cultured or elegant; free from what is coarse or vulgar 有教养的; 文雅的; 不粗俗的
Her tastes are very refined. 她的趣味十分高雅.
2 freed from impurities 纯净的; 精炼的
refined sugar, oil, etc 精制的糖、 精炼的油.
Being a good listener means much more than just listening with ears. Eyes mean that I should look at you while you are speaking as a sign of respect. In other words I should not watch TV, or look over your shoulder at other people while we are talking